Love is Stronger than Hate.

Today i went to a protest calling for the repeal of Amendment One in Raleigh, the capitol of North Carolina. Though we were a small crowd, we were a mighty one – and we were enough to require a police escort. Whether they were more there to protect us or watch us, i was unsure, but either way i was glad of their presence. I re-used my sign from election day as i left from work directly to pick up my friend and drive to Raleigh, so it was a little out of place (but the message remained, so i didn’t care too much).

We walked all through the center of Raleigh, chanting things like “love is greater than hate, separation of church and state!” We got some exuberant, gleeful honks from people driving which was so satisfying. There were some nasty looks, but i didn’t care. We were peaceful, if not a little loud, and i felt so sure of what we were doing that the nasty looks didn’t matter.

It was wonderful to be a part of a movement for equality and, while i don’t think we necessarily changed anyone’s minds i still feel what we were doing was important in its own small way. In the midst of a state that legalized such prejudice, we few took a public stand saying we disagreed. And that was enough.

Friends don’t lend friends remain silent in the face of inequality.

If you’re interested, News 14 Carolina covered the event, including a close-up on Faith’s poster (and if you look closely you can see us marching!).

A Treat for Moms from Mellark Bakery: Peeta’s Cheese Buns

To say that i am something of an embarrassingly abysmal chef would be a drastic understatement. If it were possible to burn water, i probably would. I’ve certainly ruined pots trying, at any rate.

But my mother, unfailing in her teachings and a prize winner in patience, has endeavored to teach me culinary skills enough to survive since my brothers were making filet mignon at the ages of five and seven. Though this foray into mother-daughter lesson-learning has not necessarily been the most fruitful (my fault, not hers) i have gleaned a few lessons, chief among them: 1. always keep a box of Bisquik stored in the house for emergencies, and 2. cheese can make almost anything better.

Wanting to explore the realm of the unknown and out of a desire to try something new, i decided to take a proper, dangerous adventure a few days ago. It’s true friends, i did the unthinkable: i may have had mishaps on motorcycles, but few things prepared me for the confrontation i had on Friday with … my oven. I’ve started baking. And i’m still alive and mostly unscathed. I count this as a victory.

So, as an homage to my faithful mother (who will still try my cooking, even when we’re fairly certain it will lead to certain demise) and to bask in my newfound glory of cuisine-generating (beyond that of the Ramen and scrambled eggs realm) i thought i’d share with you my first real foray into baking. Funny enough, this pseudo-crafting, DIY-baking stuff i so rarely do always seems to come back to some themed party or event i’m throwing/attending (well, funny in the sense that it is totally in line with my characteristic nerdiness and lack of ability to do anything actually useful in a world outside of academia and the internet). Last time, when i made my mockingjay shirt, it was for The Hunger Games premiere. That proved, like the food, to be mildly successful. Once more, Panem has provided the inspiration necessary for lizzie to voyage into the homemaking blogging kingdom with…

From the Mellark Bakery: Peeta’s Cheese Buns                                                         (As Inspired by the Schemestresses Video)

This recipe, which i borrowed from the aforementioned Schemestresses video channel, is adapted from The Unofficial Hunger Games Cookbook, which can be found here.

Ingredients needed for this recipe:                                                                                      2.5 cups Bisquick baking mix
1/3 teaspoon garlic powder
1/3 cup sugar
3/4 cup milk
1 cup shredded sharp cheddar cheese (plus extra for spreading on top)

(for spreading on top of the buns)                                                                                           1 stick (1/2 cup) butter
1/2 teaspoon garlic powder
1/2 teaspoon salt (my butter was already salted, so i eliminated this along with the Old Bay seasoning called for in the original recipe because i didn’t have any)

Step #1: Take a semi-artsy photograph of everything you’ll need, even though you’ve just listed it above. Its cool. Don’t question the cooking blog magic. Also, now would be a good time to pre-heat your oven to 425 degrees Farenheit.

(the computer was obviously the most important thing on the list. i like my biscuits peppered with micro-chips that store information, don’t you?)

Step #2: Mixing Stuff.

Chuck all your Bisquik, milk, sugar, garlic powder, and cheese together in a bowl and mash it up like you’re a zombie making brain stew. I find singing along to 80s glam rock whilst doing this makes the batter all the more tender and mushy, but that step is optional.

braaaaaaains

Make sure all the flour-y goodness has turned to semi-liquid, plado-like consistency to ensure you don’t have any awkward patches of flaky powder in your soon-to-be-deeeliscious Peeta-buns. (I’m sorry, that euphemism couldn’t be avoided. Sorry, kids).

Step #3: Roll out your dough on a well-floured surface. You can pound it out evenly with your hands or use a rolling pin, whichever is more accessible. I found pretending to be the Black Widow and karate-chopping the dough made for a much more entertaining step three, but again, that’s on you comrades.

When you’re done evening out the mashed brains, use a cookie cutter to slice out your buns. Once you’ve cut them out, put them on your baking sheet as close to one another as possible. Jill, the host of the video, advises this because it means the bread will rise up, rather than out. I used leftover dough for two wee drop biscuits.

is it just me, or does this kind of look like a whale wearing a monocle?

Step #4: BaKe DaT, gUrL. Put your tray of cozied-up buns into the steamer for 8 – 10 minutes. And by steamer, i mean oven (again with the sexual innuendoes! I only sort of mean to do that!).

Step #5: While those blobs of dough are turning into blobs of yummy-ness, start on the spread to go on top. Melt your stick of butter into a bowl (it took my microwave 45 seconds to thoroughly do the job) and mix your garlic powder and salt into the melted ooze. If you’re as inept at cooking as i am, this process will mysteriously take the entire 8 minutes your buns are rising.

Step #6: POP THE BUNS OUTTA THE OVEN. It helps if you wear oven mitts. Your buns should be pretty white, but if they’re a little brown you won’t die or anything. At least, i haven’t keeled over yet.

Spread the butter mixture on top of the buns and sprinkle some shredded cheese over the top of your buns. If you want to use residual heat from your now cooling-down oven, stick these buns back into the oven with the cheese over top for thirty seconds or so. This should melt that cheesy gooey-ness all over them so they’re positively smothered in cholesterol dairy goodness.

Step #7: Stuff your face and dream of Peeta or Katniss, whomever gives you gooey feelings of delight. To the mothers in your life, be they your own mother or friends’s moms or friends who are moms, share some Mellark Bakery love. Unless they’re lactose intolerant. Send them a recipe for zombie brain cakes instead, much easier on the abdomen.

current jam: ”sky” joshua radin & ingrid michaelson

best thing: dairy products and old books.

things i’ve done elsewhere: a video response to hank green’s vlog on marriage equality.

Hate with Hate Won’t Work: Marriage Equality and Where We Go From Here.

I’m the first to admit i was infuriated and despondent in the wake of the (albeit expected) news of Amendment One’s passing. It was crushing because, more than anything else, i knew we hardly stood a chance in defeating it – but i had genuinely hoped that we could overcome the odds. I knew my despair was shared among many: my new feed was cluttered with colorful language and statements of disappointment over its passing, for which, i won’t lie, i took some real comfort in. But there was also a lot of hateful slanders from these very people against those who had voted for the amendment, which was far from soothing. Rather, images that compared the counties who voted for the amendment and counties with the highest concentration of college graduated with snide captions over the lack of formal education breeding stupidity left a sour smell in my nose.

For even in the midst of this hurt we all shared, an oft-quoted line from  Dr. King’s speeches and published works came to mind: “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” 

In responding to those who voted for the amendment with spiteful comments about the low percentage of people with college degrees who populate their counties, or snarky remarks concerning their personhood, we are fighting hatred with hatred. Do i think they should have voted otherwise? Of course i do. Does this make me entitled to sneer and be as equally cruel towards them as they are to me? Absolutely not. Such an argument makes me no better than they are. It may be the easy choice – to go for the low blow, take the hard-hitting swing, but such a smack speaks more of my unchecked privilege than it declares my allegiance to fighting for justice.

Besides, the comment most especially concerning college education is inherently incredibly classist, and it shows the nastiest side to liberal intellectualism. It’s the we’re-better-than-you-because-we’re-enlightened argument which (hello!) is the same premise under which the anti-marriage-equality campaign is founded. Both arguments are praising an institution (the church vs. higher education) and both drive a divisive line between “us” and the ungodly “them.”

Which is why i was not comforted, vastly, by these statements. In the moment it may have been satisfying, but that’s the thing about the path of nonviolence: it is a way of life for courageous people, ergo it is not easy. I’m not trying to say everyone should believe in nonviolence or think like me (because who am i to tell you what to think?) but i do think if we’re going into this fight for the long haul, we ought to look to our forbearers and glean what wisdom we can from their victories. The last time North Carolina amended its Constitution it was to ban interracial marriage. I think, then, the ancestors we must turn to are not from the distant past, but from the immediately preceding history wherein people of all colors stood together to fight institutionalized racism. I personally thus find Dr. King’s words to be all the more relevant.

Yesterday, though, the country took a turn when President Obama publicly announced he was for marriage equality. To be totally honest, my initial reaction was: “About damn time, Mr. President!” But the importance of what he was doing still resonated deeply with me. The timing of it, coming so close after the loss in NC, was clearly artfully planned – but also an enormous risk. North Carolina is a swing state in national elections; we may have voted Democrat for the first time in sixty years in 2008, but that’s no guarantee we’ll do so again. In lieu of the tremendously powerful conservative vote displayed in Tuesday’s gubernational election, i think what President Obama did was a bold, and thus all the more commendable, action.

But he’s not the only one working for this. The most powerful response to Amendment One’s passing that i have yet seen came from an Episcopal bishop,* Bishop Curry of North Carolina. His words are pointed at all sides of the fray; he takes a religiously-founded stance for marriage equality but also holds his comrades in this accountable in decrying those who have said hateful things to the people who voted for the amendment. Whether or not you’re a person of faith (and not that my opinion on your autonomous decision matters but, for the record, i still love and value you and your rights even if you are not a person of faith) i highly encourage you to watch his response.

Most of all, however, i know i need to remember the humanity present in all of us. This isn’t a one-time, lizzie-writes-a-blog-post-and-is-now-a-saint thing. Rather, i know for myself i must choose to recognize this humanity in all of us every day – and most of all on days when this fight is exhausting and hurtful and i am at my most vulnerable. But in the words taken from the essay “Gandhi and the One-Eyed Giant,”by freedom fighter Thomas Merton: “love triumphs, at least in this life, not by eliminating evil once and for all but resisting and overcoming it every day.”

further things of interest: a petition to repeal amendment one; also, a counter-voice critiquing the slippery language of president obama’s marriage equality statement.

current jam: “tomorrow will be kinder” the secret sisters, from my playlist in response to the amendment’s passing.

*For friends who may or may not know: the Episcopal church has been at the forefront of the religious fight to ordain people of queer identities (you can be gay and/or female and still be a priest in the Episcopal church).

North Carolina, You Failed Us Today.

So the lousy, bigoted, harmful amendment passed.

But don’t worry, Carolina. We’re going to cry into our bowls of Ben & Jerry’s marriage equality ice cream, mourn the loss of a step towards equality, and properly sob over your royal screw-up today.

And then we’re going to come back swinging.

My history teacher in high school used to sing this song every time we talked about an oppressed group of peoples rising up and overthrowing those in power in the name of justice. As cheesy and pandering as it may seem, it feels like the only song that’s appropriate right now.

So, go ahead Twisted Sister. Let’s fight institutionalized prejudice together and look fabulous whilst doing so:

(also, if you want more music to angrily drink your merlot to, i made a whole playlist here. it could use your input. okay. back to the ice cream).

Reflections on May 8th: Halfway Through.

I am not, by definition, a morning person; in fact, i find it something of a drudgery.

However.When my alarm blared on at 7 am this morning, i awoke with an uncharacteristic jolt of kinetic energy. It was one of those rare mornings that i awoke simultaneously feeling as though i had not slept at all – that the buzz and whir of preparing for the day ahead were a continuum in which i ran – and yet i felt deeply refreshed and ready to face the morning, coffee or not. The reason for my awakened state was that, as you no doubt have already gathered, today, Tuesday, May 8th, meant the North Carolina primary was coming to a close. Amendment One’s status still stands in limbo.

Though i knew i’d probably be tabling/campaigning against Amendment One alone as the rest of my family had school and work to tend to, i wanted to vote with my mom. My first time voting was a pretty big deal to me, and i like to share accomplishments with the people whom i love. This, paired with a desire to talk with as many people as possible, encouraged the early wake up call.

I dressed listening to recording of Dr. Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.’s speeches mixed into a playlist of the 2010 FIFA World Cup album, allowing the thrum of Dr. King’s words and the jubilant choruses of the songs to fill me. Everything about my outfit was intentional – my shirt, a gift from a friend at school, was from the Protect ALL NC Families coalition and a bright blue with white ink. I wanted to wear a red headband and belt so as to have all the American flag colors – something i don’t even do for Independence Day, but i found all the more important when dissenting with the popular legislative opinion. It may seem silly to dwell on such details, but the intention was so purposeful i wanted to share. Besides, i think it was former NYC Mayor John Lindsay who once wrote “dissent is the highest form of patriotism” (though this is oft attributed loosely to Thomas Jefferson). I thus felt more patriotic today than i have ever felt before.

After breakfast, mom and i headed to the polling station wherein she announced to all in the vicinity it was my first time voting. My cheeks thus matched my headband, but it was with delight i checked in and took up my ballot. Needless to say, the first circle i filled in was “Against.” Sticking that ballot into the counting machine as voter number 220 was incredibly satisfying; getting my sticker made it all the better.

(i’ve been waiting for one of these since i first saw my dad wearing one whilst i was still in elementary school!)

with the long-coveted sticker! thanks for taking the photo, ma!

After voting, mom had to go, and so i joined the sole campaigner outside with a sign i’d spent the night before creating (see below). She was terribly nice to let me sit with her, and for her company i was most grateful. We conversed about the implications of the amendment for several hours, she handing out flyers to ingoing voters and i smiling and waving to the people whom i did and did not know. Being Chapel Hill, there were an overwhelming number of people who applauded us for sitting outside the polling place, with commending comments and thanks for tabling. Between the pair of us we got more thumbs up than i can recall. We thanked each person for voting.

It did, however, take a considerable number of people a moment or two to figure out what my sign meant; i could clearly see the squinting and apprehensive looks at the word “Jesus” before they reached the ending phrase “Vote Against.” Some scoffed. I got a few nasty, nasty looks and pursed lips – even from people whom i know. A few, though not may, refused to even make eye contact. But most people broke into smiles, nodding approvingly. One woman even stepped out of her car to thank me for “speaking of the Love of God.” Hearing this, paired with the sobriety and gravitas with which she said it, was pretty powerful for me. I don’t even know her name.

I had selected my words very carefully for my sign, because i knew as a student of Religion and an unyielding believer in human rights that i wanted to make a statement that fundamentally challenged the notion prevalent in this country that marriage, as ordained by law, was subject to church authority. Deeper still, i wanted to subvert the idea that Jesus of Nazareth hated anyone, and that all people of faith (regardless of who or what this faith might be in) are not homophobic and hateful. I know i am not alone in thinking this, as the Protect ALL Families coalition has actively engaged the faith community across the state. More than anything else, though, when the people campaigning for Amendment One showed up waving their banner saying God only loves people who are in heterosexual marriages, i wanted to stand in sharp, pointed contrast.

I didn’t know if any pro-Amendment One folks would be there with signs, but when they arrived and rolled out their cardboard poster i was glad (if not a little scared) to be a counter-voice. I don’t claim to be the voice, or to articulate any opinion other than my own. But i am a voting voice, and a voice of a person of faith, and most poignant today i am a voting voice who believes no single institution or person has the right to infringe upon someone else’s liberty, particularly when such opinions stem from a place of fear.

Around noon, though, i realized i’d left my water bottle at home (rookie protestor mistake) and, in the knowledge i’d be more useful hydrated than in a hospital suffering from heat stroke, i bid my new friend adieu and headed home where i now sit, writing to all of you. At present, it is almost 2 PM and i’m contemplating where to go in town next after the rain lets up a little (i’m thinking downtown). Again, if you have not already voted Polling Places don’t close until 7:30 PM so please do not leave this one up to your peers to decided. The odds are not in our favor, but we can do this. If you need more information on how to find your Precinct, you can go here.

Injustice Anywhere is a Threat to Justice Everywhere.

Dr. King once spoke these words – and though they first manifested themselves in his life some fifty years ago, their importance has not wavered. We are not in a “post-racial” era, we are not on the final frontier of combatting prejudice, and we are certainly not done with the work given to us as decent, loving, kind human beings. But such work should not deter us for, as Dorothy Day (another incredible freedom fighter) once uttered, “No one has the right to sit down and feel hopeless. There is too much work to do.”

The work today is fighting Amendment One. The North Carolina legislature has put forth an amendment to the state constitution that will have devastating consequences for human beings across the state if it is allowed to pass. Same-sex couples, children of unwed couples, widows, and victims of domestic violence are the most prominent among the lists of people whose rights will be the most encroached upon. But such injustice does not merely threaten the “others” of our world – it directly confronts us with a reality of hatred so terrible it taints our very nature as human beings. Whether you see it as a sacred duty or an inalienable right or something in between, we cannot let Amendment One pass.

If you are of legal voting age and a resident of the state of North Carolina, please go vote today (May 8th). The polls are not in our favor, but odds are only numbers. We are more than simple numbers in the fullness of our identities – and should we choose to enact this potential, we shall overcome these mountains of bigotry and fear. Let’s show this country that we are not stupid, homophobic, and afraid of that which is perceived as different. Let’s show them that a state entrenched in a history of slavery, and a region known for its conservatism, can learn and grow from change. Let’s show them that an amendment founded in religiously-charged prejudice can be combatted with the kind of Love such religions are meant to teach.

“A ‘no’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, avoid trouble.” Mahatma Gandhi

(Photo taken from the Vote Against Amendment One Page; additionally, some thoughts in video format from when this amendment was first proposed if you’re interested)

Thoughts from the Journey: Homeward Bound.

My Dad flew up Thursday afternoon to assist me in moving out and, consequential of my sleep-deprived, exam-taking state, do part of the fifteen hour drive home. I turned in my final exam and, within no less than thirty seconds, my phone started buzzing with the news that he was at my dorm ready to start moving me out.

We wasted no time. Nothing less than a tornado of sweeping-up and placing-in-boxes and balling-up-in-bags cleared through my half of the room. No matter where i am or where i am going, the first items to be packed and unpacked, always, are my posters. It doesn’t feel like my space without color splashed on the walls in the form of treasured photographs or Van Gogh prints; it feels too somber to begin departure without un-doing the creation of my own space. When the walls are stripped, the room belongs to someone else again.

The room now relocated to the back of my car (code name: The Firebolt), we embarked Friday afternoon. Details only reveal the sweet sorrow of parting, and leaving sounds too callous. Embarking, it seems, is the most appropriate. A journey, a voyage, a temporary coming-and-going. My life, these years at university, seems to be an ebb and flow in the most non-figurative of senses.

Enough waxing lyrical; finals seem to have drained me of sensible writing. The journey commenced, the departure encroached, and Massachusetts was bid adieu. Through Connecticut we flew, and into endless hills and thunderstorms of Pennsylvania we held fast. We took our dinner in Scranton at the advice of my favorite Marauder and MI-6 agent, whereupon i ate breaded ravioli (delicious), Dad ate a french sandwich au jus (no beef for me!), and we shared a brownie (or warred over, depending on whose perspective). Fans of the office might appreciate the restaurant in question:

(it wouldn’t be a larry-lizzie journey without the signature dad-drinking-coffee-for-fortitude shot!)

There were hotels to select, and radio stations to recollect, and free wi-fi to prey upon for the father (and more ice-cream eating for me):

(of note: this computer is his, not mine. they are twins, naturally, but i think it sweet every time i see it!)

…before the time came to take up the wheel once more.

And then, lo and behold, we came upon a town that, were it found on Caprica, i think might be the laughingstock of the entire Battlestart Gallactica. The sign is mildly obscured by poor lighting and droplets of rain, but it reads “Frackville.” I laughed and longed for summer time ample enough to watch science fiction shows.

Night drew close. Gas was consumed by the vehicle, sleep taken by we who, for the day, had occupied it.

We awoke at what in college might be considered the crack of dawn (save for the crew team, perhaps) and traversed more roads through Pennsylvania and Maryland. It was whilst in West Virginia, however, that we drove past a landmark notable for its importance in American Civil War history and for me, most recently, in a paper i wrote for a class on the conscious of women in the lives of Frederick Douglass. Though John Brown was not to be seen, I delighted in recognizing Harpers Ferry (which is, apparently, meant to be spelled sans-apostrophe) and took it as a validation that education can manifest itself usefully in the world outside college.

Through West Virginia we drove until we reached her mother, Virginia, guided so fruitfully by one of the two identical road atlases kept stocked in The Firebolt.

(Also of note: Amherst, blurry at the bottom of the above photograph, bears the same name as a neighboring town to Mount Holyoke. There is also a South Boston in Virginia, which made me feel as though we had never really left Massachusetts to begin with).

(every good road trip requires its own unique 6-CDs-long mix!)

While my father drove, i burned CDs filled with old loves and tunes of Carolina. The Avett Brothers, Ben Folds, and Old Crow Medicine Show were featured prominently in the latter category, whilst Billy Joel and Elton John occupied the former.

Whilst in the Shenandoah Valley, we pulled over for a scenic stretching break wherein more classic Larry-and-lizzie photo-taking awkwardly occurred until, thank goodness, a couple from Missouri offered to take our picture in exchange for us taking theirs. Strangers on the road and in snapshots. The mountains were painted like the colors of the Van Gogh works that had so recently collaged my walls. I took solace in this.

thanks, friends of the road.

I took the driver’s seat, and my father took over the camera. There were lunches to eat, and my first solid jolt of sweet tea since March. Alongside Jerry Falwell’s memorial we ate southern chain food and, though i was acutely aware this was not yet home and in no way did i blend in, there were hints of Carolina growing closer. The air was getting thicker, the dogwood scent more potent.

Before long, there were signs indicating what tastes had taunted and scents alluded to. Chapel Hill was nigh, and summer was really here. Mango Jerry played juxtaposed to Keltic Electric; we sang an out-of-key harmony.

And now here i sit, somewhat at a loss. I knew the semester was wrapping up too fast – it always does, after all – but this happens more than i care to admit. I grow more and more restless, ready to tear down the posters and roll them into their boxes bound for home before i give pause to remember that home is a complicated word. Simon and Garfunkel plays on repeat, the rain taps at the window, and the cats are here. This is home. The room behind is no longer mine, and yet come fall there will be empty walls ready for the stringing up of new photos and old memories. A time in between, the season of weeding, blooming where i am planted. Come what may.